What? In the butt? Does the thought of anal sex make your butt snap shut faster than a trap? Don't worry: even nervous beginners can learn to follow their butt bliss.
WHY WOULD I WANT TO?
Because it feels awesome! Your butthole has one of the highest concentrations of nerves in your whole body, and playing with it can give you an amazing rush of sensation. If you have a prostate, that’s an even bigger bonus for ass play!
WILL ANAL SEX HURT?
Not if you take your time warming up and use plenty of lube. Also, get turned on first. Warming up is important for all play, but especially anal. Try massage or spanking to get your brain and body in the mood. Arousal relaxes your whole body, including your ass. And use common sense: start with a finger, not a fist.
BUT ISN’T IT... KINDA GROSS IN THERE?
Your rectum is a hallway, not a storage facility. There won’t be anything in there unless you’re about to use the bathroom. If you’re super worried about cleanliness, you can always use an anal douche to rinse yourself out before you start.
WHEW! OKAY, WHAT DO I NEED TO KNOW TO GET STARTED?
First, use more lube than you think you need. Unlike mouths and vaginas, butts don’t self-lubricate! Get generous with your favorite toy- and body-friendly lube. Second, make sure that any sex toy that you’re using has a flared base at the bottom – a stopping point. Third, only do what feels good. Discomfort will make you tense up, which will make you more uncomfortable. Plus, why have bad sex when you could have great sex?